George Faller, EFT trainer, gives a great overview of the negative cycle couples fall into. He offers ONE example here but know that the cycle can happen for any couple and roles can vary from this scenario i.e. husband and wife experiences can differ from what is shown here.

An illustrated short with Brené Brown on blame.

Secure Relating (Holding Your Own in an Insecure World)

Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley, PhD

Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations For a Lifetime of Love

Written by: Dr. Sue Johnson

This book offers insight into attachment in our romantic partnerships as well as help identifying patterns or negative cycles that we continually fall into.